I have a habit of reading the very last page or paragraph of a book before I start reading it from the beginning. I tend to do this because I like to know how the book will be concluded, and since I pretty much only read non-fiction I don’t have to worry about ruining the ending. To me, a good conclusion to a book says a lot about the author. There is nothing more aggravating than reading a whole book (let it be fiction or non-fiction), only to be left hanging at the end. It doesn’t matter if it’s merely a poor choice of conclusion or the book failing to provide its reader with proper closure by ending abruptly. The reader is left feeling like the book is incomplete.
This brings me to the idea of closure in relationships and why I started writing about closure to begin with. I don’t know how often it happens where a person walks away from a relationship and leaves the other person stranded with questions never answered. But this has happened to me enough times with the same person for me to know how important giving and getting closure is.
Responsible people make sure there is closure before abandoning the relationship. You can say an author who provides his or her readers with a good conclusion to a book is a responsible author. The same goes for people who’ve come to the end of their relationships. I’m sure there are a number of reasons why a person would choose to simply walk away without a proper “closing”. Though I may not know of all the reasons, I know one of them is fear. Fear that things will get messy once it’s open on the table. Fear of having to clean up the mess afterward (or maybe that’s laziness). Fear of admitting to things you don’t want to admit to. Fear.
Out of respect for the other person’s peace of mind, I think providing closure is necessary. Being forced to draw your own conclusions often only causes misunderstandings. But even then it’s not real closure. Without proper closure, it makes letting go difficult and moving on impossible. So where can one go to find closure if the only person who can give it to you refuses to?
Ultimately, I think all people need closure. A hug or a kiss at the end of a night to tell that friend or lover “goodbye”, or getting that diploma when a program is completed at school. Those are simple acts of giving and getting closure. When a murderer is sentenced to life in prison, that’s closure for the victim’s family. It doesn’t necessarily change the situation, but having closure makes moving on possible.
So here’s a piece of advice: a good author should provide his/her readers with proper closure at the end of his/her book. A responsible lover should also do the same.